1. What is your pet peeve?
People who donât take responsibility and deflect blame.
2. How do you react when it happens?
Frustrated. Iâm voicing a concern to you so why is the conversation suddenly becoming about how youâre hurt and Iâm somehow the one comforting you nowâŚ
3. How often does it happen?
Far too often, far too often.
4. Assuming positive intent, why do you think it happens?
Because people canât handle the shame of being called out on their bad behavior so rather than owning it, theyâd rather remove the blame from them, refuse to take accountability, and call the other person out on things that are irrelevant from the original topic of concern.
5. Will assuming positive intent help you cope the next time it happens?
I wish it did but the other person has to be willing to make changes to be more receptive in taking responsibility if theyâve hurt someone, even if it was unintentional.